The Changing Tides of Marriage

For my Marriage Preparation class, we have recently been assigned to read several reports of social scientists on marriage. It is interesting to consider these views on marriage. It is rather unsettling to consider the increasing trends towards divorce and cohabitation. Sixty years ago these lifestyles were very uncommon. Additionally, there was so much shame attached to these things. Now due to the influence of trends and how it is portrayed on television, it is practically expected that these things will occur.

I guess I just am so grateful for the opportunity I had to grow up in a home with two married parents. This has made a big difference in my life and I just wish that more people could have that experience. Since both of my parents have stayed married during my life, my mother was able to stay at home with us. It was so wonderful for me to know that I had her as a support at home. I always knew that if I had had a bad day at school, I could return home and talk with my mom. There are no monetary sums or tangible gifts that could value more than the time I had with my mother. I believe her choice to stay at home with us has had a big part in the reason that she is still one of my best friends to this day. I feel so blessed to have grown up with such a wonderful friend and sounding board.

Also, it surprises me to consider the attitudes that so many people have towards marriage. It seems like people enter into relationships and marriage with much more selfish reasoning. I have sometimes recognized this in myself. Many times I have very high, if not unrealistic expectations. Considering these articles made me want to reconsider my expectations of a relationship. Although it is important for me to look out for my best interests, this should not be my only priority. It will be important for me to take into consideration how I can potentially bless my future husband as well. Also, I need to keep in mind the needs of my future children. I am planning on rededicating myself to really getting to know myself so I can understand what God has intended for me. By understanding my strengths and weaknesses, I can be better prepared for whatever is in store for me in my future.